Does Indian Society have better relationships?

Does Indian Society have better relationships?

We all need to change our mindset. India is the best but not in the area of relations. Indian Society has lesser understanding factors than many or most countries, the bond they say is stronger and still you find older people thrown out on streets by their own kids, money creating huge problems among family and the only nation where marriages are still arranged and daughters are conditioned from childhood to accept their parents’ choice. In spite of all the progress we have made, India still remains a conservative society.

And the fact is, Indian society will never accept live in relationships moreover if it does accept here, it's the woman who starts out with a disadvantage. If a relationship fails, she is the one who is judged like it has always been. And no one intervenes if there is violence between partners in a live-in arrangement. Here too, the onus lies on the woman and people pass judgment on her character. Unless we change the way we bring up our daughters, our society will not change. How many middle-class parents can really say their daughter has the liberty to choose if she wants to get married or just live with a man? Ours is a very patriarchal society. Here only in our beloved country, couples are killed for daring to fall in love. There are few places where caste panchayat’s decide the fate of young couples who dare to deviate from the norm. I am not telling it’s practiced everywhere but only half of the society is moving forward rest is still lacking behind. The sad fact is only Indian television needs to air save girl child not any other country needs to. Indian parents (not all but many; which doesn’t make it any less shameful) are not trusted with having daughters which shows how much they lack in bonding with a new born girl child of their own.

Before, we Indians were known to have great family bonds but now what they mostly look for is money, some people let their parents stay in their house just because they will receive a good amount of property in return and not like before as it was one way to support them in their old age as they supported us in our younger age. Parents with no or less property or sometimes who have already named property to kids are even thrown out of the houses, this is real when you look on the internet you will see how they don’t even have the courtesy to keep them in an old age house, they throw them in street’s and some are even beaten away.  I know it’s a foreign culture to not live with parents and not an Indian culture. So are we just going to blame the foreign culture and move on and not think about the ones who love us, I am not only saying to keep them in your home but also give the love and support like they once gave you.

Lastly the bonds between siblings, we have seen great bonds ourselves haven’t we, like our parents and their siblings or cousins have always been close, so much close that they talk each day to know if they are safe?, if they are happy? and it’s not like just for the sake of calling there is a real bond in them, haven’t we seen them talk about every little detail in their ongoing life it’s one feeling, don’t we wish to have the same bond like them. This is not about only that, in today’s world haven’t we seen brothers and sisters fight over property? There are cases out there where two sisters or two brothers, wanting the property and causing great disputes in the entire family resulting finally into splitting of the family members. Has our culture gone so narrow that we cannot have the bond that is much more than money, trust me I literally blame money for creating these loads of problems around the world. In India there are increasing number of cases in sibling rivalry, we can review there are lots of cases in court just on sibling property dispute and other various reasons.

In India relationships used to have bits of perks of family bonds but now even that is no longer holding together, society has got more backward with only little of it forward. And for society to change, we need to change our mindset first. So let’s decide something today, let’s take time to consider how lucky we are to have people around us who love us and let’s pledge not to stain it because of any kind of materialism.

-Dhruvil Joshi